In which fandom is a potluck.
Jan. 5th, 2025 10:49 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)

In your own space, talk about a fannish opinion you hold that has changed over time.
I don't know exactly if this is something that has changed over time, or something I have realized I feel strongly about. For context, as a writer, I'm a snob. I'm very good (yes hi but it's true) and also have really specific perspectives about the stories I want to write and what they should do for the characters. I am a tough beta reader who will only read for people who I trust are good writers seeking to make their stories the best possible versions of themselves.
And I was very fortunate to grow up in fandom communities that also valued writing and character, so this never felt particularly weird.
But fandom has grown and expanded, and who I know in fandom has grown and expanded, and honestly, what I read and write has evolved as well. I was recently in conversation with someone about an online community, and I recommended that we invite someone who is a prolific writer of deeply inconsistent work, much of which is cliche, some of which is out of character. And that person balked because they are also a snob, and they just didn't jive with the prospective invitee's writing and engagement.
And it made me so mad. Because not only do I love me some good silly happy endings, they are an integral part of the fannish ecosystem. People read my longform character studies, but many more of them read the happy ending shorts. The silly stuff keeps people engaged and happy, and creates space for the rest. Also? Judging a person's value in fandom based on their mediocre AU fic was...kind of offensive, actually. I recommended this person because they are a friend.
Fandom is community. We talk about more cakes, but it's not a cake party. It's a potluck. If someone is bringing something they made with love and took time with, you can decide it isn't for you, but you can't be mad it's there.
And I hadn't ever put that into words before.
I am still always going to try to be the best writer I can be, and treat the characters with thought and consideration. I am still mostly going to seek out stories that do the same, and hold the people I edit to high standards. I will absolutely go into DM and be snarky about bad takes or bad cake. All to the good.
But the broader community has to be about community. If someone comes to your potluck with open arms and a gift, you say thank you and invite them to your table.
And that is the thing that fell into place for me this past year that I think I never really got before.
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on 2025-01-05 08:25 pm (UTC)Amen!
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on 2025-01-05 07:37 pm (UTC)Thank you for sharing!
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on 2025-01-05 08:28 pm (UTC)Oh yeah, absolutely, I always ask what people want from me as a beta reader because if I don't...things get messy. Though the best compliment I ever got from someone was a friend who published a story un-betaed, because she said that if sent it to me, she knew I'd make it so much better, but that she just needed to send it into the world. And that was extremely legit!
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on 2025-01-05 07:55 pm (UTC)I love this so much and shall cement it on my heart and carry it with me for all future interactions with writers--
even those who should very much be in charge of bringing the plates and cups to the potluck(Sorry, first instinct whenever I'm overly sincere and sentimental is to kill it with sarcasm or passive agression--or both). ♥no subject
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on 2025-01-05 09:38 pm (UTC)Oh this would totally drive me mad, I fully support you in being annoyed about this! I think my current supervillain origin story is that I am on this community that does a lot of sharing of WIP...and no one ever posts complete fic, since they get their feedback in the comm. Come on! Share with others! FIND AN ENDING! Etc.
I AM JUST SO THRILLED WE'RE ALL STILL DOING THIS.
ME TOO!
(And still screwing up HTML tags, too!)
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on 2025-01-05 10:55 pm (UTC)Yes ...
on 2025-01-06 12:28 am (UTC)Well said. We need to get that back if we want fandom to continue existing.
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on 2025-01-06 07:51 pm (UTC)Not everyone meets your quality standards now, but who's to say they won't in the future? And also who's to say they won't have other things about them that bring something great to the fandom table?
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on 2025-01-08 12:16 am (UTC)I mean, I'm very outside looking in, so I don't really have a sense of how widespread this is. But from that vantage I also find Discord fandom slightly daunting for lots of reasons. This adds another one!
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on 2025-01-08 01:17 am (UTC)So it's a careful balancing act, since I also recognize that fandom is much, much more accessible and mainstream these days than it was (when we were young etc), and so some guardrails make sense. Just have to figure out how to do it right.
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on 2025-01-08 01:15 am (UTC)oh i love that. it's a really good way to describe the community.
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on 2025-01-09 02:46 pm (UTC)Oh, I love this!
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